Coming to terms with Egg Donation
India teaches us about the “ The Four Principles of Spirituality. ”
When I came across these amazing words of wisdom I was struck by how pertinent they are to those woman that we deal with daily, that are trying to come to terms with egg donation. So often we hear “If only I had had a baby when I was younger…If only I had met the right man sooner…This should never have happened to me…My timing is all wrong and now its too late…I’m mourning the loss of my genetic material…Its just that I want MY own genetic child even though I know that’s just ego, wanting a child that looks like ME…”
The First Principle states:
“Whomsoever you encounter is the right one”
This means that no one comes into our life by chance. Everyone who is around us, anyone with whom we interact, represents something, whether to teach us something or to help us improve a current situation.
The Second Principle states:
“Whatever happened is the only thing that could have happened”
Nothing, absolutely nothing of that which we experienced could have been any other way. Not even in the least important detail. There is no “If only I had done that differently…, then it would have been different…”. No. What happened is the only thing that could have taken place and must have taken place for us to learn our lesson in order to move forward. Every single situation in life which we encounter is absolutely perfect, even when it defies our understanding and our ego.
The Third Principle states:
“Each moment in which something begins is the right moment”
Everything begins at exactly the right moment, neither earlier nor later. When we are ready for it, for that something new in our life, it is there, ready to begin.
This is the Fourth Principle, the final one:
“What is over, is over”
It is that simple. When something in our life ends, it helps our evolution. That is why, enriched by the recent experience, it is better to let go and move on.
Be good to yourself. Love with your whole being. Always be happy. Accept and move on to motherhood.
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